Im 17 dating 14 year old
I assume the reason for this is they can get younger women to respond to them, so why would they go for me when they have a chance with the 45 year-old version of me?
If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. It’s frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating.
I don’t mean those men any disrespect, I just want to date a guy closer to my age so that I have a longer future with him, and I don’t feel that I should have to apologize for that.
I have taken your and others’ advice about profile writing, and I have great photos, so I feel confident that the problem is not in how I present myself. It always comes out eventually and I’d hate to have to explain myself then.
And you may be trying your best, but you’re not truly maximizing your potential. Which is like saying you’re going on a diet by cutting out sugar, but continuing to eat large portions of fried foods.
In all likelihood, despite your efforts, I’m betting your profile can be better, your photos can be better, your responses to men could be better, your initial emails to men could be better, and your choices in men could be better. My recommendation – if you haven’t done it already – is to go through every word in Finding the One Online. You don’t have to quit online dating to meet men in real life.
I’m guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further.
Even if I am within their desired range, I still don’t get much of a response.
When I have emailed some of those guys, I never hear back.
It’s 7 hours/180 pages of advice that takes you through the entire process of online dating chronologically. All you can do is change your mindset and approach to the dating process and let the chips fall where they may.
I’m betting you can find TWENTY things you can do differently to get different results. And since I’ve helped a LOT of women over 50, I have to believe that all you can do is keep on keeping on, instead of embracing the idea that NO women over the age of 50 find partners online. Great timing for this post as my 54th birthday looms up next month.
I agree with everything Evan says and based on your advice Evan Ive tweaked my profile with your suggestions e.g. Most importantly I agree your photos have to be great.
I chose to adjust my age down a few years since I was being eliminated by what seems like half the men my age when I put my real age.