If you weren't blessed with socially confident parents or, friends who did really well with women when you were at school, it can be a very difficult thing to learn as an adult."In this country we tend to live in large houses, in sprawling car-dominated cities, everyone held at a distance; it's not a tight-knit living arrangement like many European cities."We've also inherited some of the 'sexual repression' of the English, as well as their preference for dealing with all romantic and sexual matters after quite a few drinks. Well, if you're a single man in Perth, James feels sorry for you. Men have a huge number attractive, intelligent women (who will only date a certain kind of guy) and a large number of tourists to choose from," says James.
"And we're now confusing ourselves further by becoming increasingly more status and money oriented like Americans," he says. And if you live in Adelaide and dig hot bogan chicks, you've got it made. On the flip side, he says it's a brutal environment for women over 25."In Sydney (and Adelaide) you regularly see large groups of attractive women with no guys whatsoever.
Melbourne Having run many events in Melbourne and dated lots of girls there, James says it's roughly even-Steven for both sexes."Melbourne obviously lacks the weather and beaches that other state capitals have, and people tend to be a little less physically active and/or looks orientated," he says."Many of the men and women tend to be more arts, culture and book-minded than the other capitals.
In many respects, the cliche is true; Melbourne is a more enlightened city than the other Aussie capitals."Property prices and the cost of living are not horrendous (like Sydney), so the city seems a little bit less status-oriented, than Sydney or Perth.
This would be among the really beautiful women, who are not willing to date just another beer swilling, surfing, footy player," says James."For the many Perth guys who really do struggle, consider getting some style advice and maybe taking your annual holiday in the eastern suburbs of Sydney, where there are large numbers of attractive, educated women just waiting for masculine, single guys," he says.
It seems to be an extremely masculine place, even in the really wealthy places."Because of the weather, it's really a minimal clothing city so men and women must stay in shape. However, thanks to the mining boom you'll also encounter "materialism, status-consciousness on a grand scale"."A little bit of good news: guys who are just a bit more enlightened, better dressed and more well read than average can find a really powerful niche in Perth. Join in with tens of thousands of Melbourne singles enjoying regular casual dating and sex… Our members aged 18-59 are looking for casual sex partners in all areas of Melbourne, so if easy sex is what you’re after, you’ll find it here!New members are joining every day too and are actively looking for local casual sex.In this respect, he argues Sydney has become very much like New York and London: There are lots of accomplished, lonely people here."Many people's lives seem largely work and career-focused and there's very little time for anything else; dating, travel, arts, culture, sport, seeking some enlightenment, happiness," says James.He also says that, because of the huge focus many Sydneysiders have on their careers, many professional men aren't particularly masculine and many professional women aren't particularly feminine."Most exercise regimes seem to focus on the gym/running for both sexes rather than, say, masculine sports for men and/or ballet and salsa for women," says James."I regularly see groups of eight immaculately-presented women sitting face-to-face at a corner table, seemingly expecting some super-confident, handsome guy to come up and make a sincere attempt at getting to know them in front of her seven friends," says James. Brisbane James says it's roughly a 50-50 gender split of attractive people in Brisvegas."Obviously it's got great weather a lot of the year.